From young…college age to….being a oldie…

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From young…college age to….being a oldie…

Life is strange..it takes us far, it makes us to live, it makes us full of wisdom, strength, life, power, and decision making sense and then when we reach the age when we r free to take those decision life gives us complications, life gives us hurdles, life gives us heart-aches, life says slow-down, life makes each step dificult……….and so what do we do?

We slow down, we decide there is enough time to live our dream, we prepare and accept what life is telling us to do and we go in comfort zone, we SLOW-DOWN…and then by the time we realise we r 40+…we dont have much time…our heart is knocking hard, cholesterol is not someone elses problem now, school fees of kids is for real, june is month of shopping not diwali or christmas or ramazan….June…is full of burden…Fees, uniforms, shoes, books, hmmmm….heart attack is not a threat…each thud each pounding leads us to hospital…BP is ur head ache now, Diabetes is about to knock ur door…

Wifey is not so beautiful now…weight is not the same, neither is inclination to look beautiful, after 2 kids, after a heavy bellied husband and loads of house work and office….she dosent have time, neither energy to look spectacular as she did when u started dating her…or when u were newly married, or when ur first baby’s first bday was thr….life changes for both of u….and u realise u have lost 40 good years of ur life…

Then u turn 50…and u r in the category of old…ies…..ur advice is seeked when college addmission is taken…ur advice is taken when a groom is choosen for a neice or nephew…ur advice is seeked when someone in house is planning to go abroad, ur advice is seeked when someone is too naughty and not interested in studies….ur example is being given as a ideal uncle….or aunty….how good children u raised…how nicely u live…u feel wanted again…

So what if u dint live ur dream..so what if u dont look exactly the same way u thought of living at this age, so what if u r heavy in belly, bald in head, and had load of free advice…u are still sought after oldie in the house…

With kids grown up, moving in college, perhaps in another city or country….u have more time for urself…u have ur own CAR for urself now….ur wifey have a car too….both r now freer than u were in past 20 yrs….so…u relax again….u dress better…join a club, bring some young dress….jean and t-shirt….red, pink, yellow…ur wifey also enjoys her freedom…and relaxation….goes to beauty saloons….spa….and yoga…gets somewhat in shape…brings some young dresses…suits..if look permits..then jeans and t-shirts too…..hair dyes and a dash of lipsticks….but now…when u have so much time…money too…and both r thr for each other…u decide to travel..first to ooty…aaaaaahhhh the fisrt honey moon was here…shimla…the second honeymoon was planned for here which never took place…goa…hmmmm a dream destination…himachal…kashmir…still a dream…as by the time…u plan to raom around INDIA atleast….

U both also start crib…start fighting over the lost time…over the looks of each other..over how we have wasted so much time doing nothing….cud have done so much…WHY……..WHY……WHY?????

Kids coming home for vacation…wifey again busy in cooking childs fav meal…packing food for journey….achar, papad, chutneys, and so many things..Kids never ate it when they were home…now they miss these things when they are in AMerica….they miss MA ke haath ka KHana…and khate waqt dad ka daantna….they miss Indian festivals….they miss ghar ki chai….

And they have unknowingly drawn again in the same mill u went thru….they r again pushing thr dream back to live a so -called normal life…they r again earning money…seeking to have a family and having loads of money to enjoy later….LATER…..but u see LATER never comes….and we as a family never leads money…and never needs to put the dream away….to live it later….

One can live today…one can enjoy each day of life and one can still live….with all the praises and less illness…if taken proper care at proper time….

I dont know what i am writing…i dont even think i am thinking when i am writing….but i do believe what my mind is pouring on here is what i believe in….and we as a family is doing just that since last 12 months….and we r happy…we r together…for the past 8 yrs of married life..this is the first time i am with him and he with me….as in job…we were in office for 10 hours…then in kitchen and drawing room for next 4 hours…and in sleep for rest of the time…..so…its difficult to be with EACH OTHER…….leave alone living a DREAM…..

One shoud keep on DREAMING and then also LIVING it in reality…it makes life more interesting….

Neha Srivastava-Kulshrestha
Indian
Ghana