17th Februrary 2002 we got married..six years from now..we are so much in love today, we are together for each other, but it was not always like this. when we married via arranged marriage we hardly knew each other,.
The days were fun, we liked each others company, the talks were good,. But I had to go back complete my job committments. I was a lecturer in my home-town, and he was a lecturer in his home-town.Immediately after marriage I returned for completing my academic year and my Research Paper, in 2 year of lecturership I had already published 1 national level, UGC paper and was working on my another paper. My husband came to meet me sometimes I too went to my sasural for interviews, but the distance between us grew, differences became wider with each passing day.He was a very patient young handsome man, but he too started loosing his cool..when I came back forever to sasural, leaving a settled job, and adjust to a unsettled new life totally different from where I belonged I was constantly complaining cribbing on isssues meaningless and baseless....I was confused too as it was like my nature, it was a different lady..i dint knew her at all....but all the same she was there..she was in me and speaking thru me....
One day, Thursday, July 7th, 4 months after our marriage, we were having soup, I was nagging as usual, he had not said a word. he loved me more than anyone else, he always cared for my laughter, he always accepted my point of view but at the same time he could not do much to convince me that all will be fine soon, that I would get a job soon, that I will adjust too in the new house, though the new house was completely different from the house I came from, though the expectation for life after marriage was different from those of normal girl, though I still lived in a fairy tale love story world...He very well understood that I miss my parents, my job, my students etc. Suddenly I stopped nagging to expect his reaction he was silent, dead silent. Just staring..not gazing me..not looking in my eyes..just beyond me...deep in me..as if seeing his ownself and also seeing me at the same time..His eyes were so painful, I could see thru' his eyes he could very well understand what I am going through that he could feel what I was feeling & suddenly I melted...He became my Prince Charming, knew I can never hurt him ever, I knew his dreams are more important for me than my small girlish problem, I knew that somethings are better left the way they r to be settled than crying over them and wasting the best time of one's life...
I could remember my transformation, i could remember how I started loving him..I guess in India...Arranged marriage work more because Girls & Boys understand this at one point or another..and they then love each other for all their life.
From that day onwards till today we never had a fight. I know I don't love anyone more than I do love him. His eyes spoke that day volumes what words can't speak. They are still there in front of me, I love him and he is always there for me...
Neha Srivastava
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